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19/02/2023  

932. Participant on the Dr. Phil show

Quiet a few teenagers found themselves being used as entertainment on the DR. Phil show. It is a show that criminalize the entire transition process from child to adulthood.

In Denmark where most of the authors come from, we have managed to provide the teenagers a safe environment where they can socialize over beer and wine. In fact teenagers in Denmark can buy alcohol on their own once they have turned 16 years of age as long as the alcohol percentage is below the safe level of 16.5. Providing the access to alcohol enables their ability to socialize and empathize the needs of the youth they drink with. Not but not least: Friday bars in school lowers the amount of students that drop out.

Do we have troubled youth in Denmark? Yes. Some neighborhoods seems to create crime. It is not bad upbringing but simply the truth in the old wording: “It takes a village to raise a child”.

That is why Denmark have the ghetto-plan. It a neighborhood creates troubled youth, it is labeled a ghetto. The local authorities have two years to fix the issue or they are ordered to tear the buildings down. It means that some people who did not commit crimes, will have to move which might sound a bit unfair but in the general interest of the society it must be so.

Most young Danes grow up questioning authority and in that way we as society ensure that we bring up innovative generations that can move boundaries.

The Dr. Phil show do the oppesite. The children are sent to boot camp styled ranches or even the dangerous wilderness therapy programs that have claimed the lives of more than 100 teenagers during the last couple of decades. They learn not to question authority which let them become victims of whatever person who is in charge. They never move boundaries and invent new things that benefit manhood.

Many see non-issues published nationwide and in a time where social media allows you to track only the youth but also friends and family, their participation defines their life. Regardless of the outcome of whatever prison-styled so-called treatment program they are sent to, they are labeled as they were before the program decades after the program they participated in, was broadcasted.

It cannot be fun to be on this show as a teenager. The only good thing is that Dr. Phil has decided that his time as pre-doctor on Television has come to an end.

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07/04/2018  

673. Oxfam group homes in Haiti

The department of Oxfam in United Kingdom is not longer represented in Haiti after it was revealed that some of the volunteers and employees took advantage of the unprotected and vulnerable children who needed housing after earthquake.

While it could not have been fun to be there while those adults were present, it raises the question whether it can be fun at all to be there as a child in a country so broken down regarding supervision and structure as Haiti is.

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06/04/2018  

672. Kenbe Fem Ministry

Kenbe Fem Ministry is a ministry in Haiti. In 2017 a manager of the facility was arrest for sexual abuse of the children when he was back in his home country where the court system unlike the system in Haiti works without corruption.

He was sentenced to 40 years in prison combined with supervision in 2018.

It could not have been fun to be there as a child but then it cannot be fun to be in Haiti at all when you see a country which barely functions at all.

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05/04/2018  

671. Holsteins Minde

Holsteins Minde has been a group home for children for more than 100 years. It was founded in 1833. Originally the main building was a farm name Hjortholm. The facility went under names like “Det Fuirendale Institut” and “Holsteins Minde”. Fuirendal was the name of the local castle where the count Frederik Adolph Holstein was the financial backer of the facility in the start.

The name reverted back to Hjortholm Kostskole in 1967.

The family situation was difficult for many. Some were restricted when it came to communication with their family members. A former resident wrote on a message board (in Danish Language):

Jeg vil nu lige skrive lidt af min historie så i er med på den. I får den korte. 

Min mor gik fra min far da jeg var omkring fem år gammel fordi han var alkoholiker og ikke kunne/ville stoppe.

Så fandt hun sammen med min lillebrors far Palle. Når han ikke var hjemme måtte jeg ikke spise, der kom kun slik på bordet når jeg var lagt i seng osv. Min mor flyttede/flygtede så en dag fra ham da han var på arbejde. Der gik det så ned af bakke for min mor. Kian min lillebror blev fjernet fra os, og jeg blev så også fjernet da jeg var omkring de 8-9år.

Der boede jeg så på opholdssted i et år. Så røg jeg i en plejefamilie og videre i en anden plejefamilie og så ned på Hjortholm Kostskole. Under alt det der, skete der ekstrem meget. Måtte ikke se min mor kun snakke med hende én gang om ugen. Jeg har set hende være ved at blive skudt og hun slog mig nogen gange og hun drak bare rigtig meget. Men op i numsen med hende nu.

Jeg har så også et handikap som jeg er født med. Det er mine Achillesener/staves? som er for korte. Er så blevet opereret i dem begge på samme tid på Næstved Hospital. Så blev jeg så igen et par år efter opereret i min venstre side en gang til. Og det gik så ikke som jeg havde håbet – Det hele blev værre! Jeg har så i 10 år af mit liv ventet på at få at vide hvad jeg ELLERS fejler i mine ben udover de korte sener i mine ben. Jeg havde været hos neurologer og ortipæder og mange mange læger og undersøgelser. Alle skrev så tilbage til kommunen. Men jeg fik aldrig noget at vide selvom jeg ringede og spurgte kommunen. 

Jeg har altid været i kommunens system, siden jeg var helt lille. De har bare aldrig nogensinde formået at hjælpe mig med noget. 

Jeg mødte min kæreste i 2007 som jeg så flyttede sammen med. Han har AD/HD, og jeg har psykiske og fysiske problemer. Vi har så formået at komme langt bare med hinandens støtte. Jeg er meget tæt med min mor i dag og min stedfar. De kan bare ikke hjælpe mig med så meget. Min mor har været ædru i mange mange år, men har ikke overskud til at hjælpe mig eller snakke så meget med mig om følelser.

Min far døde af sit misbrug da jeg var 14. Jeg har nu siddet stille i 3år uden hjælp selvom jeg har ringet og været til møder. Jeg er blevet afvist af min psykolog fordi jeg er for stor en mundfuld. Nogen sagsbehandlere har opgivet mig fordi jeg også for dem er en for stor mundfuld og er blevet sendt hjem et par gange selvom min kæreste tager fri for at køre mig!

Jeg HADER dette her system og den behandling man får! Ligegyldigt om man er handicappet eller ej. Jeg er meget ensom og meget træt og blevet fed på grund af deres “Sisse kan vente hun er alligevel en kategori 3 eller 4”. Jeg vil da også gerne have et liv og noget hjælp til at komme i gang. Men, det virker som om jeg hele tiden bliver lagt væk.

Jeg har så også det der hedder Hammertæer, det vil sige at selvom jeg er 21, så har jeg tæer som en på 70år. For korte sener i tæerne, det gør så at det er ekstremt svært for mig at gå og stå. Men stadig ingen hjælp at hente. Jeg kom fra Høje-Taastrup kommune til Fakse kommune nu. Håber så bare at de er hjælp at hente fra dem.

Tak fordi i læste den. Selvom den blev lang, men i fik den korte version. 

MandySisse – k10.dk message board

Over the years some of children ran from the facility. An article mention abuse of a girl conducted by older boys at the facility. Another how children at the facility planned an assault on a girl from a nearby boarding school. The monitoring of the children does not seem very secure.

It could not be fun to be there as a child when supervision is so relaxed that the children can abuse each other.

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Update 2023

The clientel of the facility has changed over the years as result of changes in the politics administrated in the social services. The children entering the facility would in some cases arrive with illnesses which would have been better addressed in secure treatment facilities, but the pressured economy in the Danish society in general prevents this.

As result, facilities like Hjortholm has seen a number of suicides.

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04/04/2018  

670. Baunehoej efterskole

Baunehoej efterskole is a boarding school in Denmark where teenagers can finish their basic education before moving on to high school. Some parents send their girls to such school because they are shy and the parents hope that the girls develop themselves into young women during their stay.

In the years from 2004 to 2006 the school had an employee who made advances towards the shy girls living at the school hoping for a sexual relation with them. In the end he was arrested and given a suspended sentence.

It could not have been fun to be a teenage girl at this boarding school when he was teacher.

Sources (In Danish)

03/04/2018  

669. Atlantis

Atlantis in Næstved, Denmark was a group home for children suffering from Autism and some other issues. It was supposed to be monitored by the state but the supervision was only consisting of coffee and cake in the management office.

Local citizens reported the facility to the police after it was discovered that the facility drove the small children out of town and let them walk alone back to the facility in the middle of the night as punishment. The children aged around 8-11 could have been hit by traffic during their 10 kilometer long walk.

It could not have been fun to be there as a child.

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02/04/2018  

668. The ABC School

The ABC school was a school in the Danish town of Odense, where young people could suplement their normal education with education during the weekend. The school was not recognized by the Danish department of Education.

It was revealed that the school had used corporal punishment which had been outlawed in schools for at least 20 years at the time of the news.

It could not have been fun to be there as a child.

Sources (In Danish)

26/03/2018  

667. Daruk Boys’ Home

Daruk Boys’ Home also known as Daruk Training School was created hoping the change to lives of young offenders. Instead it became a place where adults could have sex with minors. Basic guidelines to prevent such things from happening were not followed and young boys aged down to 12 ended up with men who had other things in mind than the welfare of the boys. And the sexual abuse was just part of some of the gruesome things which could happen to the boys confined at this facility. The Australian government rewarded the management for their efforts.

It could not have been a fun place to be as a child.

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31/12/2017  

638. Pine Ridge Training School

Located on an area where they used to house prisoners of war during the second world war, a training school housed teenagers until some time in 1980’s.

Many years after the closure it seems that the training schools housed adults who molested and abused the teenagers. Various forms of sexual exploitation took place against the teenagers. It marked them for decades afterward.

The worst part is that Pine Ridge Training School was only one of these schools. More horror testimonies are expected in the future.

It could not have been a fun place to be as a teenager.

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25/07/2017  

580. All Saints Academy, Plymouth

The All Saints Academy was founded in 2013. As a private religious based school they have their agenda. However the state also have theirs and it is to secure that schools in the country deliver a good quality and the Ofsted inspection found that the school didn’t deliver. Especially the quality of teaching was too variable and teachers’ expectations of pupils were too low.

Teaching the students the bible and exclude parts of the evolution history which does not fit what the bible claims does not ensure good quality.

However the schools have not addressed this. Instead they focused on punishing the understimulated students isolating them for 24 academic hours and sending them home with proper communication to the parents. Does that improve the student material? Of course not.

It cannot be fun to be there as student. There are properly other schools in the area. The parents should move their children away from this school.

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